tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8353472710868488508.post5548286624431209645..comments2023-03-24T04:10:21.178-06:00Comments on Gay @ BYU: TactlessMister Fahrenheithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02811944777406013603noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8353472710868488508.post-12225399953265827862010-03-25T15:54:57.624-06:002010-03-25T15:54:57.624-06:00It's this exact reason that I have a hard time...It's this exact reason that I have a hard time doing anything with my Ultra-Conservative in-laws or any of my mother's or father's extended family - I know that if they come out with something similar to what your brother did, I'd out myself, and say to put me and my two boys on the island, because if I'm gay - they might be...<br /><br />I'm sorry, man. I hope things improve!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8353472710868488508.post-43514324773988741382010-02-08T22:39:02.055-07:002010-02-08T22:39:02.055-07:00I am really sorry to hear about those comments. E...I am really sorry to hear about those comments. Every once in a while I get the comment from my friends, "oh that's gay". But luckily for me, they usually apologize. Most of the time I don't even notice anymore. I can completely understand how terribly frightening that situation is for you. One of my roommates told me he'd kick the trash out of anyone who's gay. But he wasn't like that at all when I finally got enough courage to tell him. And just remember that there are people who love you just for you.Hopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14622866136945257976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8353472710868488508.post-75883567694306804592010-02-03T20:22:33.400-07:002010-02-03T20:22:33.400-07:00That sucks that your brother is so insensitive. Ho...That sucks that your brother is so insensitive. However...does he have any gay friends? I think a lot of the time gays are just nameless and faceless to most people, and they really just need someone to expand their horizons for them. I've had that happen several times with some of my friends; just knowing someone who is gay completely changes their outlook.<br /><br />So don't give up on him yet!! :)Dave Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05297906335942004558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8353472710868488508.post-31782238529772873882010-02-01T19:58:50.540-07:002010-02-01T19:58:50.540-07:00Big hug.Big hug.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8353472710868488508.post-1330239973601251832010-02-01T19:40:10.490-07:002010-02-01T19:40:10.490-07:00About as recently as last October, my brother had ...About as recently as last October, my brother had the same attitude towards homosexuals and other so-called "deviants". It wasn't until recently that I've had the chance to slowly ease him into seeing another point of view.Laurenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02452126809752182340noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8353472710868488508.post-6163824736931891782010-02-01T11:48:54.074-07:002010-02-01T11:48:54.074-07:00I am so sorry you had to experience what you did. ...I am so sorry you had to experience what you did. I don't know your brother, but wonder if he did know about you, if he would have behaved differently. I have noticed my children's attitudes and conversations change since learning about me. Maybe this event might be an opportunity to share yourself with him. Hopefully he loves you enough to be respectful and compassionate toward you.Bravonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02762204502534599107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8353472710868488508.post-64137331013474811982010-02-01T10:58:05.061-07:002010-02-01T10:58:05.061-07:00If my brother said something like that to me, I mi...If my brother said something like that to me, I might smack him. (One advantage size gives me). Maybe its time to tell that boy the horrific truth and give him a lesson of reality that he needs.Kurt Petersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12610294728203577699noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8353472710868488508.post-41953807295531500472010-02-01T04:52:58.620-07:002010-02-01T04:52:58.620-07:00I know it's really hard now but don't give...I know it's really hard now but don't give up. Could you go to grad school in a major city? I have come out (Dublin, Ireland) and I can't believe how great life can be. Don't come out until you are sure you are ready and it's safe. One day you will and you'll realise how many other people out there are just like you and know exactly how you feel. You will have more good times than you've ever dreamed imaginable and make some of the closest and warmest friends of your life. Remember when times are hard that this to will pass.<br /><br /><br />Interestingly, studies show that people are in real terms less homophobic than they sound. Young men talk the talk as a way of emphasizing or defining their masculinity, i.e by reference to what they are not rather than what they are. The envirionment you are in sounds unwelcomming but this is the exception not the rule. Study hard and plan your escape. Everything you ever dreamed of will soon be within reach. <br /><br />Take care.Anonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08558877755039554871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8353472710868488508.post-84681773307912883472010-02-01T00:33:42.350-07:002010-02-01T00:33:42.350-07:00I know how you feel my friend. I had to listen to...I know how you feel my friend. I had to listen to my dad and brothers bash gays more times than I care to remember. The following is the web address to a post on my blog where I talk about one of the instances:<br /><br />http://gayldsman.blogspot.com/2009/10/out-of-mouths-of-babes.html<br /><br />Everybody tells you that you need to have patience but when you have to hear your family saying these types of things it hurts and the hurt goes deep. I don't know if it helps or not but know that you are not alone, you have many unknown friends who understand and have been there. As you begin to come out more you will meet more and more people who are there to hold your hand and give you hugs when you need them the most. Otherwise Good people can oft times be so pious in their self righteous indignation.<br />RichRichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03006256975840584997noreply@blogger.com