tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8353472710868488508.post9045569656035860516..comments2023-03-24T04:10:21.178-06:00Comments on Gay @ BYU: Going HomeMister Fahrenheithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02811944777406013603noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8353472710868488508.post-88267071338386345472009-12-18T23:52:20.556-07:002009-12-18T23:52:20.556-07:00I can second the recommendation for No More Goodby...I can second the recommendation for No More Goodbyes - it made a world of difference with my parents. The important thing to think about is what do you hope to gain by coming out to your parents? What are the potential consequences? I am a huge advocate of living honestly, the rewards are SO much bigger. Just remember that once you come out you can't reverse it.El Geniohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02801064758712821345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8353472710868488508.post-16346916311860872202009-12-18T23:43:25.383-07:002009-12-18T23:43:25.383-07:00I also agree with everything that has been said - ...I also agree with everything that has been said - do it when it is right for you. Coming out to my family (parents first, siblings later) was one of the best things I have done. My family has been overwhelmingly accepting of everything. <br /><br />Pray to be ready for it when the time comes, and when it does, you'll know. <br /><br />Merry Christmas Man!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8353472710868488508.post-31602687848775591482009-12-17T14:13:56.605-07:002009-12-17T14:13:56.605-07:00I agree with what has been said above. Its someth...I agree with what has been said above. Its something that you shouldn't put off too long, but don't rush into it just for the heck of it. I've found that waiting so long kind of put my parents behind the curve...Also, be completely honest with them once you do decide to tell them. Its better to get it all out in the open at once. <br /><br />They might surprise you, like my parents have--they've been pretty supportive. You could be the foundation for a better family--one that is more accepting and tolerant of others.<br /><br />Lastly, consider having some literature ready for your family to read if they want to. I really like Carol Lynne Pearson's books, and I especially recommend her book "No More Goodbyes." She's a member so that might help your family feel more comfortable reading it.Dave Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05297906335942004558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8353472710868488508.post-90651795654512170132009-12-16T23:55:05.072-07:002009-12-16T23:55:05.072-07:00I think the timing should be a matter of prayer an...I think the timing should be a matter of prayer and on your timeline, but I recommend sooner than later. Acceptence is the antedote to shame. Accept yourself and pray they will too. <br /><br />It becomes increasingly hard to live a life of secrecy. Hopefully your family will be supportive. Remember that their biggest questions will be 'what now?' What does it mean for your future? <br /><br />Good luck and enjoy the holidays.Bravonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02762204502534599107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8353472710868488508.post-12300997326610729302009-12-16T18:00:15.744-07:002009-12-16T18:00:15.744-07:00You don't have to listen to me but for what is...You don't have to listen to me but for what is worth, don't feel pressured to do anything. There's no obligation for you to come out than anyone else revealing anything about their lives to the family especially around these days, it is already stressful enough, but you will know when it is the right time. Don't feel guilty for not telling anyone, it has to be done at the right time and in the right place when you feel comfortable...<br />hugs,plPublic Lonelinesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11212960226511408147noreply@blogger.com